As I was researching this topic, I came across a lot of articles and blogs concerning this issue. This, however, stuck out to me the most so being that I’m in this category I decided to share these things not to say but also and put my twist on WHY you shouldn’t say these things. Hope this will help someone!
1."Just relax" or "Stop trying so hard."
I wonder if people think that we WANT to be tensed and tight all the time. If I could relax I would.
2. "Why don't you just adopt?"
This is one of THE MOST inconsiderate things to say to a woman trying to conceive. Although adoption can be a beautiful thing for a couple wanting to adopt and the child needing a family, some couples want to have their own experience i.e. experiencing being pregnant, giving birth from your own body or even being able to look at a child and see you and your spouse in the child. There are so many reasons…
3. "Have you prayed on it?"
If a person is not strong in their faith this question can bring up a ton of feelings of insecurities of “is God hearing my prayers” or “will my prayer ever be answered” just to name a couple.
4. "I personally don't believe in fertility treatments."
Good for you! Thank God we all don’t have to believe or think the same way.
5. "Is it him or you?"
Very intrusive question….. Just don’t….. Please and thank you.
6. "Not every woman is meant to have a child."
Genesis 9:7 says “And you, be ye fruitful, and multiply; bring forth abundantly in the earth, and multiply therein.” So, there’s that.
7. "I'm pregnant... I would've told you my happy news sooner, but I didn't know how you'd take it."
This may make a woman feel like they are considered bitter because they haven’t received their promise yet. Although it may be hard to hear initially, I’m sure we will share in the joy with you.
8. "At least you don't have a sick baby."
Wow, are our only two options really no baby or terribly ill baby? Way to look on the bright side!
9. "It'll happen when it's meant to be."
Sure! We all know this too well, however, this doesn’t make the wait any easier, especially if there are some of us who have been waiting for years.
10. "That's too bad. It happened to me on my first (second, third, other amazing timing) try!"
This can create a feeling of worthlessness to a woman that has been trying hard. This can make her feel like she is a failure as a woman seeing that she is not able to perform one of the most important things gifted to a woman.
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